Marriage!!!!!
That word now begins to strike some form of fear into my heart once it is mentioned. Well not so much fear more like anger. Infact I am boiling with anger right now as I type this as some people have made it their mission to get me married. Now this is not a bad idea don't get me wrong I am sure it a wonderful feeling to have a Man that is all yours and the mini's You and Him running around. It must be a Beautiful feeling.
But surely people have to realise that i have to find this man to marry,date him for a period of time, meet the families, fight, Make up, go through the whole falling in love thing, butterflies in your stomach and then get married??? Obviously people don't think that I have to experience this before trying to give me the lecture.
But it's not just the getting married part that is irriatating, it is also the WHO you are going to marry??? Now I am a young Nigerian(still British tho) Itsekiri by Tribe and I live in London where I meet different people from all over the world so surely i wouldn't be expected to be stuck with my fellow Nigerians at all times??? But what I now hear is don't bring home an Igbo Man or Ijaw Man. Italian men are nice but be careful. British men can take care of you but really all they want is to shag you, so be wary of them. Don't bring home an Indian or especially Arab looking Man. Hello!!! I thought I was the one suppose to make the mistakes and decisions myself???
So when I do ask Who do i bring home?? I'm told a Nigerian but then there are still no go areas and tribes.. i.e Hausa, Ijaw, Ibo, Calabar Yoruba may be managed but that one has conditions attached with that. A God Fearing man who would love me and show me Love and respect is who I should marry. Someone who we both have the same cultural background as communication is quite important I am told. But one argument I have is this Why does it have to be an Nigerian Man?? Why can't I want to bring home a Chinese man?? Why can't I go to a Party full of my Fellow Nigerians and introduce my Italian Boo without been called aside to the corner few mins after we arrived to be asked why I came with "Him"???
Please don't get it twisted there are lovely and awesome Nigerian men. I think they are one of the best kind of Men the Almighty created. I have dated them, fell in love with one, would have married one if he asked, had a lot of Firsts with them but that is just for argument sakeAgain I am constantly reminded to hurry up with my qualifications and return home so i can impact into the society and then the Obvious. Get married!!!!!!!! Then again that may not be a bad thing if I didn't feel that half the men chatting me up from Nigeria where looking for a Stay in England or some form of Visa, but then again it may just be paranoia setting in.
Maybe it wouldn't be that bad to be known as Mrs something one day. But I ask the question what is wrong with being single?? What is wrong in just living my life without having to wake up in the morning and think of what he would eat and what my Pickins would do?? Maybe I just want to enjoy the life like that. Afterall there are many and I repeat many Women out there that are Single and are thriving, they are sucessful and yes when the time feels right for them they get Married. So why am I being given the Third Degree??? Maybe people don't think i could be like them or be as sucessful?? Please understand this. I am not comparing myself to anybody, infact one thing i hate most is to be compared with another person.
And again my sexuallity has become another issue in this quest for marriage. Just in case you haven't met me, I have this Tom-Boy image that has worked for me over the years but trying to give up. I've my hair really low, sorta like the boyish cut and that Ladies and Gentlemen makes people believe I bat for the other side and so what if I did? Any of your Buisness??? I have one request people. If I'm 35 and not married or don't have a kid then by all means please set me up with your Brothers, Sons, Bosses and all alike but as for now on this Issue of Marriage PLEASE LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!!!!
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